I used to be a normal church attender living in a weird world.

The references to normal and weird from this post were influenced by Seth Godin’s new book We Are All Weird. He explains these concepts in a much more detailed and entertaining way in the book than I can in this post.

We Are All Weird by Seth Godin

Godin speaks of how the world is becoming weirder. More and more of us are falling outside the normal distribution of people. If you are a marketer this is an important idea because it makes it less effective to market toward the normal.

If you are a church leader, it matters for you too.

It used to be that going to church was normal.

Everybody went. Everybody joined. Everybody put money in the offering basket. Everybody went to prayer meeting.

We were all active church members because we had to. It was important to be considered normal in a normal world.

Go to church or everybody in your community will know that you aren’t all that interested in God.

Go to church or some might stop patronizing your business.

Go to church because your parents did, and you always have, so you might as well. Just because.

Go to church because if you don’t, then you will go to hell.

As a result, pews were full. Offering plates heavy. The parking lot crowded.

After all, who wants to go to hell?

Then the weird became more normal.

And people stopped going to chruch.

People stopped worrying about whether or not you cared if they went. Business became about business, not about church. Fewer and fewer people grew up going at all. Fewer people believe in hell.

One of Godin’s points is that it is important to understand your audience. If people are weird, then your normal way of doing things is not likely to work. To influence them you have to first attract them.

Weird people are not attracted to the normal.

Many of the traditional ways of doing church are the old normal way. Hard pews. Boring songs. Long sermons about hell.

Despite this people went. It did not matter if the church met any needs. It was simply normal to go.. But now people don’t care. I know its hard to admit this, but it is important.

How can we preach the gospel if nobody is listening?

The weird that was always the normal.

Instead of expecting people to come to church just because everyone used to, now we have to actually give them a good reason.

And we have that good reason. It’s called grace.

It has always been normal to need grace. We are all sinners. We are all broken.

But for far too long the church has not offered it. We judged others. We were dishonest. We built communities based on expectation and outward moralism.

But not grace.

If the church is to be effective in a weird world, it’s time to be normal. It is time to be honest and confess sin. It is time to meet people right where they are instead of expecting them to be like us. It is time preach that it is okay to not be okay.

Apart from the gospel are any of us really okay?

To share God’s scandalous grace, your church might need to become less normal. You might need to change your service. You might need to change how you try to reach people.

You probably need to become weird, in a normal sort of way.

Is your church weird? Are you normal? Share your thoughts in the comments.

 

  • grogswife

    Jeremy, thanks for sharing…everything u said is so very true, but I had never really thought @ it like that before. Sounds like a really interesting book!

    • http://jeremysconfessions.com Jeremy Statton

      The book is very interesting. It’s not written out of a church perspective, but as I read it, these thoughts developed.
      Thanks.

  • Charlie Chang

    Thanks for this.  A lot of stuff to think about.

    I was thinking of this when a guy in seminary preached instead of the normal pastor last Sunday.  Out of the 40 minutes, the last 10 minutes were what stuck because it was a personal story.  The previous 30 minutes were just typical lecture style preaching, which I believe doesn’t work today.  And I believe that’s why Jesus made his points about God via stories.

    I realize that stories are unique and weird and when speakers or preachers tell them, they are more effective and get the point across better than a well 3 point sermon.

    But yes, we’re all weird lol.

    nicodemusatnite.com

    Charlie

    • http://jeremysconfessions.com Jeremy Statton

      I think many preach a 3 point sermon because that’s what they were taught to do. It certainly is easier to stick with what you know than try something new and take a risk. Then again, only big risks pay big.

  • Brina_Harwood

    I am fortunate to go to a church that is wierd… or normal… depending on if you grew up in church or not.  We firmly believe that methods are up for variation and change, the message is not.  We might not look too much like the normal church or the normal set of Christ followers, but we all seek Him and in doing so, we cannot seek normal as defined by the American church or the world.  Seeking Jesus is a radical idea, one that can get lost in the business of this world and the business of church.

    • http://jeremysconfessions.com Jeremy Statton

      Following Jesus is weird. I think it’s important to not forget that. everything he taught was weird, especially radical grace.

      • Brina_harwood

        One time during prayer and study the Holy Spirit (I know, sounds spooky, good thing it’s October) showed me that one of the narrowest paths we can follow is created by footsteps.  I pictured a large field with grass 4 feet tall and a small path made by Jesus’ footsteps.  That’s where I need to walk.   

        • http://jeremysconfessions.com Jeremy Statton

          If I were in a field of 4 feet grass, I would definitely take the path. Following Jesus on that path is a definite bonus.

  • http://jpaterik.com Jessica Paterik

    Grace + outward focus.  It’s time to reach out and not be so inward focused and wonder why people aren’t coming anymore.  But even more importantly – as you said – is that we need to realize grace is why we’re here.  Not because of who we are or what we did.  Thanks for writing truth!

    • http://jeremysconfessions.com Jeremy Statton

      Great to hear from Jessica. I be there is some weirdness going on at your church.

      • http://jpaterik.com Jessica Paterik

        There’s TONS of weirdness going on… probably why I’m there :)  

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